1 year, 11 months ago
What would be considered a normal healthy sex life for a couple?
Me and my spouse have been together for a little over a year.... And I have been so down about myself lately because for the last few months I have noticed that we rarely have sex. Maybe once or twice a month. She tells me he is just busy and that's that. But I know that is not normal for a healthy young couple. We are both in our early twenties not an old 50 year old couple. What is going on? I really need input.
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I know several woman who just don't have a very high sex drive and rarely ever want to have sex. My best friend's sister is one of these people. She is in her 20's and used to enjoy having sex, but she had a serious decrease of sex drive in the past few years (she is 26 now). I think her problem is that she is experiencing some anxiety issues that have just changed her desire to have sex. I think stress and/or anxiety is defiantly a "in the mood" buster.
If you have recently had a baby, that can do it as well. Many women experience a big drop in the desire to have sex after having a baby. I don't think that this is your case however, since you didn't mention it.
Perhaps reducing her stress, picking up around the house will help her be able to relax more. Maybe some pampering with a nice bubble bath, making her forget her troubles. Maybe trying some more foreplay, at a slower pace would help as well. However, don't make her feel pressured, I think this would only put her off sex more.
Something very relaxing to most women is having there hair messed with. Perhaps if you massage her back and brush her hair this would relax her more and get her to unwind.
Of course, this could be caused by something else like some hormone issues, but just from your description it seems like stress and/ anxiety is the problem. At least by trying to reduce those, you might can see if that is indeed the issue.
As far as the first question goes, I think that what is normal for one couple isn't for another. I know several couples that only have sex 2 or 3 times a month. I know others that do it everyday. Then there are some that very rarely ever do it. I think sex shouldn't necessarily be routine but what is nature to each individual couple. Personally in my 20's I thought about 3 to 5 times a week was a good number.
Here is an article about the issue that has some good ideas:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/211816/things_that_can_cause_your_wife_not_pg5.html?cat=52
If you have recently had a baby, that can do it as well. Many women experience a big drop in the desire to have sex after having a baby. I don't think that this is your case however, since you didn't mention it.
Perhaps reducing her stress, picking up around the house will help her be able to relax more. Maybe some pampering with a nice bubble bath, making her forget her troubles. Maybe trying some more foreplay, at a slower pace would help as well. However, don't make her feel pressured, I think this would only put her off sex more.
Something very relaxing to most women is having there hair messed with. Perhaps if you massage her back and brush her hair this would relax her more and get her to unwind.
Of course, this could be caused by something else like some hormone issues, but just from your description it seems like stress and/ anxiety is the problem. At least by trying to reduce those, you might can see if that is indeed the issue.
As far as the first question goes, I think that what is normal for one couple isn't for another. I know several couples that only have sex 2 or 3 times a month. I know others that do it everyday. Then there are some that very rarely ever do it. I think sex shouldn't necessarily be routine but what is nature to each individual couple. Personally in my 20's I thought about 3 to 5 times a week was a good number.
Here is an article about the issue that has some good ideas:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/211816/things_that_can_cause_your_wife_not_pg5.html?cat=52
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